Deep Canyon Counseling
Regardless of how well Mom and Dad get along during a divorce, it is a scary, confusing, and stressful time for children, no matter what their age. Most kids are angry and many feel responsible and want their parents to stay together no matter what. Older kids often feel split between both parents and have conflicted loyalties.It can be difficult to pay attention to how your children are weathering a divorce, but you must. Behavior changes in your children often happen. If you sense your child is depressed, anxious, or experiencing low self-esteem, you may want to seek therapy for them, especially if it becomes too much for you to handle. In a nutshell, pay attention when your child’s behavior changes from what is typical.Signs Your Child May Need Help
♥ Toddlers (age 1-4) may regress to bedwetting or sucking their thumb, or they may return to depending on an object of security, like a blanket or stuffed toy.
♥ Preschoolers (ages 4-6) may become anxious or socially withdrawn, isolating or spending time with adults. They also may go in the opposite direction and resist adult authority.
♥ School-aged children (ages 6-13) tend to show more signs of grief and loss. This is often a time when children take sides which is commonly reinforced by the parents. Be careful not to allow this because these kids tend to have more serious problems later if you do.
♥ Adolescents (ages 13+) typically act out in some way with bad language, failing grades, or aggression. Sometimes they internalize their sadness, especially girls, and often times become involved with drugs or sexual activities.
Remember, the biggest predictor for how well your child does after a divorce, is how well you get along during your divorce. If you and your ex-spouse experience a lot of conflict, your kids are more likely to have difficulties in school, fall prey to teen pregnancy, and have more challenge in their own marriages later.If you are dealing with any issues related to divorce, I encourage you to contact one of our therapists here at Deep Canyon Counseling for a consultation.If you are thinking about divorce and not sure what your options are, but know you want to do it as peacefully as possible, I'd suggest you consider Collaborative Divorce Mediation, which is a non-adversarial approach, saving you time and money and keeping you out of court. It is a healthier alternative for your family than traditional litigation. You can find out more by visiting www.collaborativedivorceservices.com or calling them at 760-778-0044.How to Help Your Child Through a Divorce
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